A few months ago, I started dating this guy. We'll call him "Old Balls". I'm not going to go into detail but it was just a casual thing. I had no intention of getting serious with him and I knew he felt the same. We were just having a good time.
Anyone who knows me well understands that I'd rather you be honest with me more than anything. I don't care what you tell me, if you're honest, more often than not I can deal with it.
I'm not an idiot. Old Balls has been unfaithful to EVERYONE he has ever dated or married so I wasn't expecting a monogamous relationship but he is hot as hell so I just wanted to have a little fun.
Then I found out that he was seeing someone else and lying to me about it. Again, I didn't expect him to see only me but I hate being lied to. And the fact that it was stupid lies made me even MORE angry.
It wasn't that he was seeing someone else, it was that he was treating me like a moron. It was an insult to my intelligence and I stopped seeing him.
Ok, cut to this weekend at the Artoberfest. My ex-boyfriend-turned-best-friend went with me and as we are walking around, perusing the artist's booths, I spotted Old Balls walking with a woman, holding hands.
I wasn't jealous but suddenly I felt evil. I wanted him to see me because I KNEW it would freak him out a little. I can pretty much assume he's unfaithful to this chick so seeing someone he use to sleep with while out with said chick would make him uncomfortable.
Plus, I am SO much cuter than this person he was holding hands with. Please girls, don't act like you haven't felt this way before!
Anyway, I alert ex-boyfriend-turned-best-friend whom we'll call Dipshit for this post.
When Old Balls passed by, we made eye contact but that was it, he didn't acknowledge my presence at all (which I expected).
I turned around and watched them walk on and suddenly I wanted to follow them. I was being mischeivious, I know, but I just wanted to make him a little uncomfortable. C'mon! It's fun!
But Dipshit wanted no part of it. He kept trying to walk over on the other side of the street so I found myself screaming things like, "Come on you fucking GIRL! Just walk with me!" or things like "God, you're such a fucking pussy! Be a man!" (Can you believe that we ever broke up?)
He informed me that he could easily be a man on the opposite side of the street.
Later, I thought about my behavior. No, not about yelling at Dipshit. He deserved it. But about why I wanted to make Old Balls flip out.
I wasn't jealous at all but I guess I still harbored some resentment about his treatment of me. I have had guys cheat on me before (haven't we all?) but I was more angry about how stupid he must have thought I was.
People who treat me like an idiot really piss me off. I can forgive the cheating but I can't forgive that!
What does this say about me?
Posted by De at October 23, 2006 11:08 AM | TrackBackDE caught my eye one day surfing and so I read your posts. Honestly, I would have been on the other side of the road with "your best friend." I don't get it. I can handle the truth and do not appreciate the hurt of lies. It sounds like "the ex" was honest with you. He just didn't tell you when he was going to see someone else and I am assuming because he didn't need to report to you; casual relationship. If he had, that would have connotated a more serious relationship, as in "ring," or some sort of talisman...or a promise to be monogamous. Then, no, no one likes to feel hurt.
I don't know much. I've had to deal with ghosts from physical hurts in relationships, so I am not what anyone would call an expert at all. But like I said, I would have been on the other side of the street too...
Maybe more sinus meds DE and a strip search for good measure!
I don't like being miserable and I have never wanted to enjoy making others miserable.
I understand where you're coming from. But, like I said, I wasn't expecting any kind of commitment...I just didn't want to be lied to and treated like an idiot.
I'm not really mad about it all. I was just having a little fun with Old Balls!
My mistake, It didn't sound like you were having fun. I can't reconcile "old balls" with hot...I see Adam Sandler in Big Daddy I guess.
Posted by: bonnie at October 23, 2006 04:20 PMHaha! I know. That's where it came from.
He IS hot but he's quite a bit older than me so my friend Angela commented with "Old Balls" and so now I think about that everytime I talk about him.
I commend you for the usage of the term: Old Balls. From now on, everyone that looks at an older man should rename them Old Balls and thank me! Remember, no matter how hot the older gentleman is, they still have gray pubes.
I would have been as pissed as you De. Yeah I probably would have been a giant pussy and been on the other side of the street with your girly-man ex, but I would have been seething inside and thinking of ways I could have crushed Old Balls.
Posted by: Angela at October 23, 2006 07:34 PMOK...everyone sing, "I feel pretty, oh so pretty!" Go Jack...(Nicholson)gotta love him. Not enough life in so much vengence and anger girls. I'd suffocate, but to each her own way. I wouldn't want you TO'd at me though.
Posted by: bonnie at October 23, 2006 08:44 PMDe, I just read your post and girl YOU KNOW I would have went WITH you!!! I would have thought of something really evil to say or do!
Posted by: Lon at October 24, 2006 05:31 AMRule #1 for reading De's Blog:
Don't take anything too seriously.
The glorious part of being a woman is that when we get "irked" at a man, we can plot and plan all sorts of evil deeds in our heads and somehow it makes us feel better.
It's good to know my girls have got my back, though!
Posted by: De at October 24, 2006 09:47 AMWomen! can't live with 'em can't sell 'em into slavery.
Posted by: colin at October 24, 2006 03:13 PMWomen! can't live with 'em can't sell 'em into slavery.
Sure you can. It's called "marriage". ;)
Posted by: De at October 24, 2006 03:19 PMNo ball, chain or hitch where there's too much lip...:
Posted by: bonnie at October 24, 2006 09:53 PMHahahahahaha
although i'm thinking marriage is more Mutually Assured Destruction than profitable enterprise, perhaps I'm just bitter.......
nah, doesn't have to be a nuclear meltdown as long as both parties commit and learn when to talk and when to stop talking
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